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[Videos] Tantric Sexual Massage for Lovers

What I know about tantric sex I learned from the movies (where it’s generally about mystical male orgasms that last for hours, etc.) and from jokes about Sting, so it was nice to learn a bit more about the subject. Tantric Sexual Massage for Lovers is the beginner’s disc (there’s an advanced program we hope to review soon), and it starts with sex experts Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson explaining the basics, labeled neatly as Key Concepts in Tantric Massage. Rubbing, blowing, kisssing, biting, pressing, etc. — at this level it’s a lot more about massage than about fucking. (Though at one point they do say that massaging a hand is like putting a penis in a vagina, which makes me think they’re doing it wrong — or else I have been!) The focus is mostly not on stroking the naughty bits, but on various pressure points that can be used to induce relaxation — hands, Achilles tendons, lower back, etc. They later move on to whole body massage — where you rub your oiled body against your partner’s oiled body. Now we’re getting somewhere — human slip-n-slide action!

Some of the demonstrating couples and their scenes — with nipple stimulation and genital massage and such — are quite hot, but even with the explicit demonstration scenes this isn’t really a flick to watch for titillation. It’s a movie to watch for the sake of learning how to better please your partner (and be better pleased yourself). The instructors don’t really teach you tricks or moves so much as an entire revision of the way you approach sexual experience, and as such you should watch it with your partner. They’re going to wonder why you’re blowing on the soles of their feet or tweaking their nipples for twenty minutes straight if you just try to spring these techniques on them without the proper context.

The instructors seem quite knowledgeable, but my one complaint is this: their delivery is dull. They should take a break from teaching people to rub one another attentively and use the time to take a couple of courses themselves, in public speaking if not drama — they talk about embracing fun and being joyful, but they sound like they’re reading from a script most of the time, and it’s not especially lively, which is a shame. They tend toward the clinical in their language, too. Is there a phrase to describe sexual activity that’s less sexy than “massaging the genitals”? (Well, okay, sure, there are lots of less sexy phrases, but they could have definitely done better.) Still, the information is there, even if the delivery is on the dry side, and the lessons are clear and comprehensible. If you’re interested in opening up and expanding your sexual experience, this is a good place to start.

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