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Ouch, That Feels Good!

Dear Blowfish,

Before when I would glance at the whips and floggers section of your site I would wince a little. But recently while having sex with my girlfriend I had her bite me and loved it. Now I’m actually looking at your whips and floggers with definite interest and arousal. The problem is, I have no clue as to what to get for a real newbie like me. Any suggestions?

Ah, those love bites have been a gateway drug to spanking and BDSM for more than one of us. The best book we have that deals only with the spanking side of BDSM is The Compleat Spanker, which is an excellent beginner’s guide to the why and how of all things spanking. It talks about different implements (floggers and crops along with hands and paddles), different positions, safety concerns, etc.

I agree with the book’s recommendation that the next step up from hand spanking would be a well-crafted leather paddle. I personally like the Faux Fleece Lined Leather Paddle for beginners (and just in general), because you’ve the option of leather on one side and soft faux-fleece on the other (which can be used as a striking surface or just to soothe a sore buttock).

If you want a flogger, make sure to get a softer one instead of one of the meaner ones we have on our site. The Burgundy Suede Flogger is a gorgeous flogger that can be used gently as you and your partner learn how to wield it, but can also be swung with greater force as skill increases.

Happy playing!

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