Comments on: True Love Waits… And The Rest Of Us Get On With Our Sex Lives http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462 Sponsored by Blowfish: Good Products for Great Sex. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 01:14:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.7 by: Pressure Points | Blowfish Blog http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-4094 Sun, 25 Nov 2007 19:38:17 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-4094 [...] Let me be totally clear here. Of course people have the right to have sex on their own timetable. And that includes delaying sex for months into a relationship, or even waiting until marriage. (I think that’s a bad idea for a whole lot of reasons . . . but people certainly have the right to do it.) [...] […] Let me be totally clear here. Of course people have the right to have sex on their own timetable. And that includes delaying sex for months into a relationship, or even waiting until marriage. (I think that’s a bad idea for a whole lot of reasons . . . but people certainly have the right to do it.) […]

]]> by: Vox http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3988 Tue, 13 Nov 2007 02:25:08 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3988 Efrath, I didn't read all of your comment, but you're wrong. Sexually incompatible makes for a lousy marriage that no amount of "Great Tunafish salad" can make up for. Efrath, I didn’t read all of your comment, but you’re wrong.

Sexually incompatible makes for a lousy marriage that no amount of “Great Tunafish salad” can make up for.

]]> by: C. L. Hanson http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3964 Fri, 09 Nov 2007 19:43:16 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3964 I agree, I'm glad I don't live in that world either. I've written a number of relevant posts, probably the closest would be <a href="http://lfab-uvm.blogspot.com/2006/03/virginity-once-asset-now-liability.html" rel="nofollow">Virginity: once an asset, now a liability</a>. I agree, I’m glad I don’t live in that world either. I’ve written a number of relevant posts, probably the closest would be Virginity: once an asset, now a liability.

]]> by: Ellen http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3936 Tue, 06 Nov 2007 13:51:51 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3936 <em>I want to express my gratitude that in my world, gay sex is no longer a crime anywhere in my country </em> Greta, what country do you live in? In mine (the United States) "sodomy" is still illegal in a number of states, and though the Supreme Court ruled those laws unconstitutional in 2003, they are still being enforced (http://www.sodomylaws.org/usa/usa.htm); gay sex is also wholly illegal for members of the United States military, anywhere. :( I want to express my gratitude that in my world, gay sex is no longer a crime anywhere in my country

Greta, what country do you live in? In mine (the United States) “sodomy” is still illegal in a number of states, and though the Supreme Court ruled those laws unconstitutional in 2003, they are still being enforced (http://www.sodomylaws.org/usa/usa.htm); gay sex is also wholly illegal for members of the United States military, anywhere. :(

]]> by: Efrath http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3929 Mon, 05 Nov 2007 21:25:50 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3929 I'm quite lazy and to be honest, I didn't read trough all of it, I skipped some parts but I'll agree and disagree with you. I can agree that sex can be a fun past-time, though o'course not something neccesary (despite the common belief our society has nowadays). Too many make the mistake of believing that love and sex are the same thing, or believe that love cannot exist without sex (or vice versa). Personally I believe this is a grave mistake, as love is mental attraction and sex physical attraction. O'course, That's just a very simplified explonation, but I think it would be good if people could keep this in mind a bit more often. "Hubby eventually admitted that he just isn’t that sexual a person . . . to which wifey, the person writing the letter, was responding, not unreasonably, “You couldn’t have told me that before we got married?”" Can you really blame the guy for not telling? "By the way, before we get married... I don't really like sex all that much, despite being a guy... Sorry... Will you still marry me though? You will still marry me right... RIGHT?" Besides, when you get married or make similiar rituals to proclaim your love for eachother, it's not like you do it for the sex. You should get married for the friggin feelings ya got for the other person rather then the HOT DICKINGS (Oh how I love Dr. Tran). Now, people need to stop being stupid too, because I personally hate when couples or lovers complain about their partner's sex but doesn't even get off their lazy ass and talk with their partner about it! (Or even consider the possibility that they suck at it too). Oh yes, there needs to be more communication. Not more sex, not less sex, just understanding. But to end my too long comment, don't get together with someone for the sex, get together with someone for awesome tunafish salad he or she makes! Or at least for the affection and feelings. Totally! I’m quite lazy and to be honest, I didn’t read trough all of it, I skipped some parts but I’ll agree and disagree with you. I can agree that sex can be a fun past-time, though o’course not something neccesary (despite the common belief our society has nowadays). Too many make the mistake of believing that love and sex are the same thing, or believe that love cannot exist without sex (or vice versa). Personally I believe this is a grave mistake, as love is mental attraction and sex physical attraction. O’course, That’s just a very simplified explonation, but I think it would be good if people could keep this in mind a bit more often.

“Hubby eventually admitted that he just isn’t that sexual a person . . . to which wifey, the person writing the letter, was responding, not unreasonably, “You couldn’t have told me that before we got married?””

Can you really blame the guy for not telling? “By the way, before we get married… I don’t really like sex all that much, despite being a guy… Sorry… Will you still marry me though? You will still marry me right… RIGHT?” Besides, when you get married or make similiar rituals to proclaim your love for eachother, it’s not like you do it for the sex. You should get married for the friggin feelings ya got for the other person rather then the HOT DICKINGS (Oh how I love Dr. Tran).

Now, people need to stop being stupid too, because I personally hate when couples or lovers complain about their partner’s sex but doesn’t even get off their lazy ass and talk with their partner about it! (Or even consider the possibility that they suck at it too). Oh yes, there needs to be more communication. Not more sex, not less sex, just understanding.

But to end my too long comment, don’t get together with someone for the sex, get together with someone for awesome tunafish salad he or she makes! Or at least for the affection and feelings.

Totally!

]]> by: Rebecca http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3908 Fri, 02 Nov 2007 23:58:46 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3908 I want to move to your world. I'm an American, living in a very conservative area of the South, so even though gay marriage and homosexual relationships are accepted in certain parts of the country....not so much where I am. I can't even come out without risk to my job. :( I've met young girls who are pregnant before they graduate from high school because abstinence-only sex ed doesn't work (duh) and older women who feel ashamed about youthful dalliances and stress out because they feel like a fraud if they wear white at their own wedding. Admittedly, compared to my mother's generation and my grandmothers, we are better off when it comes to sex, marriage, divorce and relationships, but we still have a long way to go. I want to move to your world. I’m an American, living in a very conservative area of the South, so even though gay marriage and homosexual relationships are accepted in certain parts of the country….not so much where I am. I can’t even come out without risk to my job. :(

I’ve met young girls who are pregnant before they graduate from high school because abstinence-only sex ed doesn’t work (duh) and older women who feel ashamed about youthful dalliances and stress out because they feel like a fraud if they wear white at their own wedding.

Admittedly, compared to my mother’s generation and my grandmothers, we are better off when it comes to sex, marriage, divorce and relationships, but we still have a long way to go.

]]> by: Jezebel VonTizzle http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3897 Thu, 01 Nov 2007 22:33:16 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/culture/true-love-waits-and-the-rest-of-us-get-on-with-our-sex-lives/462#comment-3897 WOW! THANK YOU! you are so right about all of these things. I was reading this article and at the beginning of it thinking all the same things you touched on. The religious pressure especially. I too am an athiest and my roommate is fairly hard core christian. And although I do adore her, it makes it really difficult sometimes. Like many christians she feels it necessary to push her religion on me "just for my opinion." I feel for the couple you wrote about. And despite their religious beliefs, I hope they will be able to find some peace. How very sad. BUT I am even happier that you reminded us all of the path we have followed and how far we have come. Your right about our parents generation. I learned about feminism from my very feminist mom and love her for it. She has always been open with me about sex and I realize I have been blessed very much to have such sexually open parents. The world is always changing. And hopefully, it will continue to get better. WOW! THANK YOU! you are so right about all of these things. I was reading this article and at the beginning of it thinking all the same things you touched on. The religious pressure especially. I too am an athiest and my roommate is fairly hard core christian. And although I do adore her, it makes it really difficult sometimes. Like many christians she feels it necessary to push her religion on me “just for my opinion.”

I feel for the couple you wrote about. And despite their religious beliefs, I hope they will be able to find some peace. How very sad.

BUT I am even happier that you reminded us all of the path we have followed and how far we have come. Your right about our parents generation. I learned about feminism from my very feminist mom and love her for it. She has always been open with me about sex and I realize I have been blessed very much to have such sexually open parents. The world is always changing. And hopefully, it will continue to get better.

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