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On Surfing the Web for Spanking Porn

Honestly, I’m a little embarrassed by it.

I know that seems weird. I’ve been writing in shameless detail about my sex life, my sexual fantasies, and my tastes in porn for years. Why should I be embarrassed about surfing the web for spanking porn?

I think I’m embarrassed because I’m so single-minded about it. As a porn critic, I pride myself on having eclectic tastes, on being able to be turned on by almost any sexual scenario if it’s executed with passion and skill. All of which is true.

But when it comes to my free time, my “me” time, my non-professional “looking at porn just to whack off” time, I’m very single-minded indeed. I want to look at photos of women being spanked.

Within some pretty specific parameters.

And I spend a fair amount of time doing it. Time that I should probably be writing, or running errands, or catching up on my ever-diminishing sleep, I often spend surfing the web for spanking porn.

So there’s a disconnect between the public face and the private reality. And while the public face isn’t fake — I really can be turned on by a wide variety of porn if it’s done well — any disconnect between public and private is a ripe field for embarrassment.

But because I’m a firm believer in sex writers telling the truth, I want to face that embarrassment down. I want to talk about porn, not from the position of the critic or social commentator, but from the position of the horny drooler, using the Internet the way God intended — to find, in an overwhelming sea of available erotic imagery, the exact kind of porn that gets you off.

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So here’s what I’m looking for when I surf the web for spanking porn.

Mostly I’m looking for photos. I love a good spanking story, but it’s mostly visual porn that has the hotline to my libido.

I’m looking for photos of women being spanked. Men being spanked does almost nothing for me (unless they’re being spanked by other men, which is sometimes okay). And mostly, I want to see women getting spanked by men.

I want the woman’s bottom to be bare. Completely bare — thongs do not count. I want to see her whole bottom, not a side view. And I want her bottom to be pink or red. Handprints, stripes from a cane, the outline of a belt or hairbrush — those are excellent as well. I want to see that she’s really being spanked, and I want to see that she’s being spanked hard.

But I don’t want to see heavy, dark bruises or raised, red welts. Those freak me out. There’s a perfect balance between a hard spanking and a brutal one — and that’s what I’m looking for.

I want the spanking to look real. Fake grimaces from the woman being spanked, fake scowls from the man giving the spanking — big turnoff. I want it to look like the models are into it. The woman especially.

But she has to be into it in a particular way. This may sound terrible, but I don’t want to see a woman getting spanked with a happy smile, a big grin, a seductive come-hither glance. I want her to look like she’s suffering. In pain, in shock, protesting, outraged, frightened, humiliated, ashamed — any of these will do. I want her to look like she’s into it, like she’s getting off on it . . . but I want her to look like it’s the suffering that’s getting her off.

I want to see the woman’s pussy if at all possible. There’s a vulnerability about a woman being spanked with her pussy showing; it gives her a helplessness, an indignity, makes her available for use as well as abuse. And of course, it drags the eroticism of the scenario right out into the open. But if the other elements are there, it’s not strictly necessary. And there is something special, pure almost, about a spanking photo that’s entirely about the spanking — the punishment and suffering, the pain and shame — without any overt sign that what you’re seeing is sexual foreplay.

I want to see the woman’s face if at all possible. I want to feel the mood of the scene, and seeing her face is by far the best way to do that. But that’s not always necessary, either. A good spanking photo can convey a lot about mood, simply with posture and body language. An arched back, a bowed head, a clenched fist . . . these can speak volumes. And if you can’t see the woman’s face — if her bare bottom is elevated and made central, to the exclusion of her face — that can give her an objectified look that adds to her disgrace and punishment.

I like classic scenarios; classic positions; classic implements. Teacher and student; boss and secretary; husband and wife. Over the knee, on all fours, bent over a chair or table. Belts and hairbrushes. Too much leather and fancy equipment makes it too artificial for me. But I am a sucker for elaborate bondage contraptions that immobilize the woman in a position of extreme subservience and availability, so I’ll sometimes make an exception.

I like panties pulled down. There’s a spontaneity to it, a feeling of, “You have to be spanked right this minute,” that brings me right into the scene. But with panties gone, the woman can spread her legs a little wider and show more of her pussy. So that’s a tough call. I like both. Panties have to be down or off, though. I want to see the entire bare bottom, and even if I can’t see the pussy, I want to know that it’s naked and available.

I told you I was specific.

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So what do you like?

When you’re looking for porn that feeds your libido just right, what do you want to find?

I’d love to hear from all of you. But I’d especially like to hear from other sex writers and educators; other people like me who love to gas on about the marvelous diversity and rich expressive potential of erotica. What do you like when nobody’s watching; when it’s just you with your libido and your books or videos or laptop? What kind of porn do you like in your heart of hearts, your cock of cocks, your clit of clits? Inquiring minds want to know.

Greta Christina, copyright © 2007. Be sure to check out Greta’s blog.

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