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Innie or Outie? Female Ejaculation Without the G-Spot

I wrote about this in a comment on Rebekah’s Wetting the Bed with Pride piece; but I think it’s an under-addressed topic, so I want to bring it into the limelight and give it its own post.

A huge amount of sex education has been done in recent years on female ejaculation and the G-spot. But there’s a crucial piece of information—crucial to me, anyway—that often gets overlooked. And that’s the fact that the former doesn’t necessarily require the latter.

Or, to put it less formally: I can and do squirt without my G-spot being touched. I ejaculate from external stimulation all by itself.

And it’s highly improbable that I’m the only one. I haven’t done research and have no idea what the numbers might be, so for the most part I’m just going to talk about my own experience here. But if I can squirt just from clit stimulation, I’ll bet you a hundred dollars that at least some other women can as well.

So here’s my experience. I’m a fairly frequent, fairly copious squirter. It doesn’t happen every time my Lovely Testing Partner and I have sex, but it happens often enough that whenever we Do It, we get out some sort of sex blanket as a matter of course. (More on sex blankets in a bit.)

And I don’t need G-spot stimulation to make it happen. In fact, I don’t need penetration at all. I’ve ejaculated just from using my vibrator on the outside of my clit. Hell, I’ve ejaculated just from having my nipples played with. And I’ve ejaculated many, many times from having my Lovely Testing Partner play with my clit All without anything, or anyone, going anywhere near my G-spot, or even inside my pussy at all.

For me, it usually happens when I’ve been aroused and excited for a long time before I come. It rarely happens with quickies. I’m not sure what the physiology of that might be, but I’m guessing that a long stretch of being turned on gets the glands that secrete the ejaculate working . . . so when I finally do come, they’re juiced up and ready to go. (Any physiologists out there with theories or info about this, please holler. I’m curious.)

It doesn’t often happen when I masturbate. But I think that has less to do with any mechanics or angles of masturbation versus partner sex, and more to do with the fact that, when I masturbate, I tend to make it a quickie. And see above re: longer foreplay being far more likely to make ejaculation happen. (As a matter of fact, the first time I ever squirted I was masturbating . . . and yes, it was purely external clit stimulation, with nothing inside my hoo-hah at all.)

I suppose it’s possible that I’m somehow stimulating my G-spot, clenching or squeezing it without being aware of it. But it sure doesn’t feel that way. I realize that that’s anecdotal evidence, and I’m always death on anecdotal evidence and how it doesn’t prove jack. But I am talking about my own experience here . . . and my experience is that, when I’m getting my clit (or my nipples) played with hard enough to squirt, I’m not feeling it inside me at all. When it happens—and in the lovely buildup to it happening—I’m barely even aware of the inside of my pussy. I’m focused 100% on what’s happening with my clit (or my nipples, as the case may be).

In any case, I’m not sure it matters. If what’s happening is that I’m getting so excited from my clit or nipples being played with that I’m clenching my pussy around my G-spot without realizing it . . . that’s fine. It still proves my point. Which is that you don’t necessarily need direct G-spot stimulation, or indeed any penetration at all, to make female ejaculation happen.

Why is this important?

Two reasons.

One: Not all women enjoy penetration. Some women don’t like it at all, and others like it okay but can take it or leave it. I want these women to know that female ejaculation might still be an option for them.

Two, and maybe more importantly: A lot of women hold back on ejaculation because they think it’s pee, and they don’t want to pee the bed—or sofa, or kitchen floor, or wherever they’re doing it. Women are starting to get the message that female ejaculation isn’t pee . . . but if they’re feeling the urge to squirt when they don’t have anything inside them, and they haven’t gotten the message that you don’t need G-spot stimulation to squirt, they may still mistakenly think they’re dealing with an urge to pee . . . and they may still hold back.

Which brings me to Greta’s Quick and Dirty Female Ejaculation Instructions. Not applicable to all women, but probably applicable to some.

When you’re having sex or masturbating, do you ever feel a strong feeling like you have to pee—even if you know you don’t? Even if you emptied your bladder fifteen minutes ago, right before your started your shenanigans?

That’s it.

That’s a female ejaculation trying to happen.

Go with it. Let it happen.

That’s it. Those are the instructions.

You may find that you want G-spot stimulation, or even need it, to bring this feeling on. But you may not. You may even find G-spot stimulation at the crucial moment to be an annoying distraction. I do.

And don’t make yourself crazy by being all goal-oriented about it. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. I personally love ejaculating, it feels great and enhances the intensity of my orgasms. But not all women do it, and not all women care. If you can’t or don’t ejaculate . . . well, I can’t or don’t eat broccoli, and I still manage to live a rich, full life. Don’t worry about it.

Do be prepared for it, though.

Which brings me to my last bit of advice on this topic. I don’t normally endorse products in this column, usually because it isn’t relevant. But if you enjoy ejaculation or want to try it, but you don’t like the rather daunting wet spot it can create, I suggest you try either the very unsexily-named “incontinence pads” from medical supply houses . . . or the Fascinator Shag Throe Blanket. Problem totally solved. They’re designed for this very purpose, and they work like a charm. And they can help relieve any lingering fear that you might be peeing the bed. (Towels do not cut it. When I squirt, I squirt a lot, and it soaks right through a towel.) Incontinence pads are cheaper and take up less space in your bedside drawer, the Throe Blanket is sexier and more sensual to lie on, and covers a much bigger area. Pick whichever one suits your lifestyle and your squirting habits. Have fun, and let me know how it goes!

Greta Christina, copyright © 2007. Be sure to check out Greta’s blog.

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