My wife and I love it and all the naysayers can just… well… can just feel jealous all they want. Yeah.

Seriously though, we don’t time ours, she’s extremely multi-orgasmic and there are certain positions we like that guarantee I can’t cum or guarantee an almost instant orgasm for me. So, when I’m about ready to explode, she can feel the engorgement which sends her over the top, which sends me over the top as well. The best part for us (ok, for me) is that her vagina squeezes and pulsates perfectly with my cock’s spasming when I cum. She ends up milking all my semen pretty intensely.

I love watching my wife reach an orgasm with a vibrator and my finger. Before or after, it’s my turn.

No way can I be the one who lasts forever and gives her a vaginal orgasm. Maybe just us, but we get by really, really well.

Impatience is another factor as most men want to get to the main course, as they see it, as soon as possible, whereas with experience comes knowledge, enjoyment and fulfilment. There is nothing that gives greater satisfaction than bringing a woman to a thunderous climax especially with one or two fingers when the pulsating of the muscle contractions can clearly be felt in the vagina.

This can then be followed by normal intercourse bringing the woman to a second climax and with skill so it co-insides it with the man. Even this timing can be difficult because women normally have a climax which can last anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes, whereas the man once having let go is over in five to ten seconds.

On another subject, one which is rarely discussed, is the difference for men between ejaculating and having an orgasm. The former can be achieved very easily and quickly but an orgasm is a much more rare occurrence, especially when getting older. It is a function of excitement and arousal and bring the woman to a an orgasm first helps to heighten the excitement and the achievement, so everybody wins!

And why is that? Because the idea of sex being a morally wrong thing but necessary in order to survive, it gets dispensated in a very restrictive way. Of course you’re not supposed to enjoy something that’s wrong - men just get dispensation otherwise their genitalia would explode.

Illustration: let’s look at different hypotheses about the world. Where sexuality is treated as a positive thing there’s generally an emphasis on BOTH partners pleasure.

What’s great about sex is enjoying my partner’s experiences and responses, and simultaneity robs me of my favorite highlights.