[Books] Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Most of the poly (that is, loving more than one person at a time) people I know did their poly-training-time while clutching a copy of The Ethical Slut. When it was handed to me, (way back when I was trying everything for the first time, it seemed) I was told to skip the first part because it was “too new agey” and might turn me off. And, while I love, love, love my old copy of The Ethical Slut (even if it does still fall open to the section on jealousy), there is that danger that the person you’re trying to help cut their poly teeth will not relate to that section of the book.
But this is poly we’re talking about here, and one of the things I love about poly is that one person doesn’t have to contain every quality you’d desire in a lover. The same is true for books, which is why I can share my love with Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. Written in a clear, non-new-agey style, Opening Up is fun to read, but is still full of all the serious information you need to guide you into the world of loving more than one person at a time. From deciding if an open relationship is for you to how to create and sustain such relationships, any issue that comes up can be looked up easily and is discussed in a thorough, clear fashion. And it’s peppered throughout with stories from real-life poly folk, which is both entertaining and reassuring (no, no, you’re not the only one who has felt this way). And don’t miss the beginning where Taormino gives a very well-researched, fascinating history of all types of marriages. Opening up is an excellent secondary (or primary, if you’ve never read The Ethical Slut) reference on the art of open relationships.
- Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
- The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
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