A Dildo or a Plug?
Dear Blowfish,
What’s the difference between using dildo for anal play with a man and using a butt plug/vibrator? Can one use a dildo, or is the shape/size not as ideal?
That’s a great question. There are a lot of ass toys out there and they come in lots of different shapes these day, bound to confuse and overwhelm customers who just want to play with something in their ass and get off already. In short, you can put anything up you ass that feels good, be it in the shape of a dildo, a plug, beads, arrows or whatever, whether it vibrates, shakes, buzzes, just sits there, or whips up a tasty mug of Earl Gray after you’ve finished. So where does that leave us?
If you like the idea of a dildo being in your butt (many folks do), you might very well like the sensation of a dildo being in your butt. Most anal dildos are shaft-like and smooth so they slip in fairly easily and can be thrusted in and out without putting heavy stress on the sphincter (read: asshole) itself. Generally anal dildos are thinner than vaginal dildos, at least when people are starting out playing (they often work up to fatter dildos over time), are longer that 5″ (so you can get it in and hold onto it), and a “flange” base so it can’t accidentally slip in too far, and are ideally made of out a non-porous material so they can be cleaned thoroughly after use (silicone works great!). An ideal choice for someone getting started may be the Smoothie (which has a small vibe for added buzz) or the Mistress.
Other people prefer the feeling of a plug that goes in and stays put (the Ace Silicone Butt-Plug is a good starter choice, the Tristan Silicone Butt-Plug for something more penis-sized), giving the feeling that something is taking up space but without all the friction.
Other people like beads for their open and close sensations, making the sphincter relax and tighten over and over again. We think the Ripple is an excellent starter silicone strand of beads, and for something even more basic, the Grapes of Grapes of Writhe are a jelly alternative.
In all of these cases, some people like a bit of vibration to intensify the sensations, others don’t. As with most sex toys, trust your gut. When that fails, trial and error! If you can already put a finger or two in your bottom, check for toys in the 1″ to 1-1/4″ range. If you like two or three fingers, you are likely to get more stimulation from toys 1-1/2″ thick.
This is just a basic overview of some of the options available to you. For more complete coverage, check out our Anal Sex Guide page.
Happy playing!
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