Comments on: Couple’s Couch: Mint Jelly and Jumper Cables or: Debunking Fantasy Play http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-mint-jelly-and-jumper-cables-or-debunking-fantasy-play/379 Sponsored by Blowfish: Good Products for Great Sex. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 16:32:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.7 by: Shannon http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-mint-jelly-and-jumper-cables-or-debunking-fantasy-play/379#comment-3462 Sat, 15 Sep 2007 22:39:41 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-mint-jelly-and-jumper-cables-or-debunking-fantasy-play/379#comment-3462 Rebekah, thank you for bringing up for discussion the reality of actualizing a fantasy. Another aspect of this is that a fantasy that was totally hot in the mind might not be so hot for anyone involved in it's reality. Everyone must be ready to take it as far as comfortably stretches their boundaries, giving it a good sincere try, and letting it be whatever it is. The mint jelly may be really cold and sticky and it's awkward with the friends there. The giver may find that they actually really get into it and the receiver would rather be doing their taxes. Also, just because it doesn't fulfill all of what the fantasy was made up of the first time, it could be better the next time when the jelly has been left out to room temperature, all the friends have made out and become more comfortable with one another and they know what they're doing. So I agree. Go out, have fun, and let the fantasies flow and have fun playing out the ones you really want to actualize and then do so again with more fantasies. . . Rebekah, thank you for bringing up for discussion the reality of actualizing a fantasy. Another aspect of this is that a fantasy that was totally hot in the mind might not be so hot for anyone involved in it’s reality. Everyone must be ready to take it as far as comfortably stretches their boundaries, giving it a good sincere try, and letting it be whatever it is. The mint jelly may be really cold and sticky and it’s awkward with the friends there. The giver may find that they actually really get into it and the receiver would rather be doing their taxes. Also, just because it doesn’t fulfill all of what the fantasy was made up of the first time, it could be better the next time when the jelly has been left out to room temperature, all the friends have made out and become more comfortable with one another and they know what they’re doing.

So I agree. Go out, have fun, and let the fantasies flow and have fun playing out the ones you really want to actualize and then do so again with more fantasies. . .

]]> by: Bean http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-mint-jelly-and-jumper-cables-or-debunking-fantasy-play/379#comment-3438 Sat, 15 Sep 2007 04:16:03 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-mint-jelly-and-jumper-cables-or-debunking-fantasy-play/379#comment-3438 I am so glad that you brought up that it is okay and almost guaranteed that you (as the partner) may feel uncomfortable and ridiculous playing out your partners fantasies. It is difficult to put yourself on the line, i wish that we all had more practice at it and were never taught to hide our fears and desires. but it is a good challenge to try to crack your shell sometimes and mix things up a little. I am so glad that you brought up that it is okay and almost guaranteed that you (as the partner) may feel uncomfortable and ridiculous playing out your partners fantasies. It is difficult to put yourself on the line, i wish that we all had more practice at it and were never taught to hide our fears and desires. but it is a good challenge to try to crack your shell sometimes and mix things up a little.

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