Comments on: Couple’s Couch: “Male” Enhancement and Other Fallacies

by: Max Heck

Thu, 07 Feb 2008 02:14:34 +0000

As dashrocker mentioned, the size of one’s bits (male or female) or multiorgasimicity (is that even a word?) seem to be big deals.

Really, though, I’d say it’s more opportunism on the part of the drug companies. ED, ADD, depression, overeating and for that matter, “Restless Leg Syndrome” all exist, and for some people are real problems. That’s the original impetus for developing certain drugs.

But then drug companies say “Hmm… You know, if we could convince everyone else out there that they suffer from these problems, we could really make mad money on them!”

Can’t get it up lately? You must need the same drug we give diabetics. Of course, the fact that you were drinking, tired, or simply uninspired last time you snuggled had nothing to do with it. You too can throw that football through the tire, or whatever other metaphor makes you think of both f**king and your teenage glory years simultaneously if you only try (product name.)

Your 10 year old is unfocused and hyperactive? He needs Ritalin. (last I checked, 10-year-olds tend to be unfocused and hyperactive to begin with, and it probably doesn’t help that the anklebiter eats more sugar at breakfast than his great-grandparents consumed in a year.)

Feeling blue? Yeah, that’s never happened to anyone before. You have a syndrome. You don’t want to be the sad onion, do you?

etcetera.

So ask your doctor if Hypochondrium ™ is right for you.

by: dashrocker

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:06:04 +0000

I make it a point to mention, in similarly themed conversation, that the state of the male genitalia; big, small, functional or otherwise, is of little importance to a man who is capable of bringing a woman to multiple orgasms without ever taking his pants off.

One must understand though, that the force of will required to shake off societal pressures and preconceptions otherwise, is truly immense. Most of these preconceptions are rooted so deeply in the male machismo that they are nearly impossible to avoid.

by: Edward

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 11:52:15 +0000

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I have a dream that one day some husband and wife will be sitting on their sofa somewhere out there in the wide expanse of the country and they will see some terrible commercial about vaginal douching followed by another terrible commercial for ED medication and they will laugh at the idiocy of it all and cry at the injustices we do to our bodies with such exaggerated expectations of perfection. I dream that this couple will hold onto one another and roll to the floor and make sweet love in whatever way they have negotiated that feels good for them, imperfections and all. In reality though, I have little hope that this scenario will ever play out.
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Just so you know, we do this all the time…

by: tmi

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 05:14:51 +0000

Tinker, check out a catalogue called “King Size.” Most of their stuff goes up to 6X or 8X in “big” and “tall” and while they mostly have casual stuff, they have a page or two of dress clothes — polos, dockers, slacks, pretty much anything up to but NOT including suits.

Prices aren’t too bad — not KMART good — but they have some decent sales sometimes.

by: steppen wolf

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 03:33:33 +0000

To Tinker: ouch, I guess the problem goes across the board. But I am not an uncommon size, I must say, so the complete lack of decent clothing is something I find totally astounding.

And also, should we mention that having long work hours/multiple/stressful jobs impacts sexual performance quite heavily? Even perfectly healthy people will succumb if you put them through enough rough times. They want us to work like horses AND be healthy AND be super-duper in bed?

There is only so much one can do…

by: suedprac

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:20:02 +0000

I wholeheartedly agree… it’s just one of the many absurd notions we foist upon each other that when a willing partner desires cock, functioning penises will always go hard and stay that way for exactly the correct amount of time. There are lots of ways to have sensual adventures (alone or with partners) and in a perfect world, the lack of an erection would be the beginning of the fun, rather than the end of it.

One note of particular sensitivity on my part… please avoid replacing one common social pressure regarding sexual performance with another (specifically that it is the partner’s responsibility to “cause” orgasm). Although I love the thought of turning tables and seeing a commercial proclaiming how wonderful oral sex can be, boasting that one brought another to climax leaves a bitter aftertaste. I know I’m being picky here, but we have a long way to go before open healthy sexuality is widespread in this country (world!) and every little bit counts!

by: Tinker

Thu, 31 Jan 2008 21:57:05 +0000

The nature of Diabetes is that most men who have it are unable to get or maintain an erection. Those who are being treated for Hypertension, are as bad, and of course, diabetes and hypertension are fellow travelers. Those of us that have both illnesses are, for all intents and purposes, unable to “run it up the flagpole” at all. So you can imagine that they will grasp at any straw, no matter how feeble their chances are, just to wake up one morning and have a willing partner and the means to DO SOMETHING about it.

Oh and Steppen Wolf, the practical limit on mens clothes is 2XL. I require 4XL and in a TALL, which is almost impossible to find. I get a catalog that has DOZENS of shirts jackets and sweaters in it, all limited to 3XL, Talls only go up to 2XL. These doofuses are just TAUNTING me.

The only catlaog I can be pretty sure of finding clothes in my size is Cabela’s (outdoor/sporting goods). As you can imagine they do not have all that many dress outfits. Oh, and military surplus, seems to be the second source. Not that the Store actually carries anything in my size, on the shelf. So here I sit in my red flannel shirt with my army issue pants, and worry about impotence… not to mention fashion at all, at all.

by: steppen wolf

Thu, 31 Jan 2008 17:50:15 +0000

I know that this has pretty much nothing to do with ED. But I think my very simple case is related somehow.

I have spend two weeks looking for a proper blazer, because I have a series of interviews coming up. I do not like fancy dresses, so a formal blazer and a nice shirt would do it for me. But here is the challenge: it looks like in my metropolitan area, which must get to about 1.5mil people, I am not able to find a blazer my size. I might sometimes manage to fit my shoulders in it; but what about my BOOBS? Aren’t women size 15/16 supposed to have some chest at all? Apparently not.

Why am I telling you about this? Because the amount of frustration that results from your body being considered as inexistent by all the malls and shops in a city must have a psychological impact as high, if not higher, than getting frustrated in bed. I think I am understanding why girls in my hometown, many thousands of miles away from here, starve themselves to be able to fit in the clothes they like.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why are women supposed to be “boobless” and size 14 max? I am not extremely big - and still here I am, having to scout MALE shops for a blazer. I am sure you will not be surprised that I almost succeeded in my intent yesterday, except that my correspondent male size goes away like crazy. But why can guys find their size, while women can?

Anyway, I am just frustrated I guess. I have a sweet, adorable partner, but here I am being brought down by mere pieces of clothing. Clothes should fit our bodies, not the other way round. The same as sexual performance should be the result of a successful relationship, not something we can master out of the blue to prove ourselves that “we are worth it”.