Comments on: Couple’s Couch: Having vs. Wanting http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558 Sponsored by Blowfish: Good Products for Great Sex. Fri, 29 Aug 2008 19:52:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.7 by: Agnes http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-10391 Sat, 16 Feb 2008 16:54:37 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-10391 The point is of course valid - why should masses of married couples have trouble keeping up the tension otherwise? Sex counseling is all about how to cultivate desire in most cases. Still, there are some lucky people who don't have to work through years of practicing meditation to be able to be/feel/enjoy themselves in the moment. Must be wonderful :P The point is of course valid - why should masses of married couples have trouble keeping up the tension otherwise? Sex counseling is all about how to cultivate desire in most cases.

Still, there are some lucky people who don’t have to work through years of practicing meditation to be able to be/feel/enjoy themselves in the moment. Must be wonderful :P

]]> by: ed http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-10105 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:14:07 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-10105 I definitely don't agree that anticipation is better than the moment, moment, moment.... I definitely don’t agree that anticipation is better than the moment, moment, moment….

]]> by: Robert F. http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-9961 Sun, 10 Feb 2008 13:50:03 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-9961 I can well understand the attraction of desire as a stand-alone feeling instead of just the gateway to satisfaction. I think one of the keys to focusing on that desire is simply to relax and enjoy it. Savor the feeling of desire. I don't drink but I imagine it similar to the wine lover's swirling the glass, drinking the aroma that precludes the actual drinking. Key to this is the certain feeling that one will have the prize and so the anxiety of Will she?, Will he? and so on only has a detrimental affect on the enjoyment on the desire itself. So I agree with the premise wholeheartedly. Bring that desire down into your heart and enjoy. Just cumming is hardly enough. I can well understand the attraction of desire as a stand-alone feeling instead of just the gateway to satisfaction. I think one of the keys to focusing on that desire is simply to relax and enjoy it. Savor the feeling of desire. I don’t drink but I imagine it similar to the wine lover’s swirling the glass, drinking the aroma that precludes the actual drinking.
Key to this is the certain feeling that one will have the prize and so the anxiety of Will she?, Will he? and so on only has a detrimental affect on the enjoyment on the desire itself.
So I agree with the premise wholeheartedly. Bring that desire down into your heart and enjoy. Just cumming is hardly enough.

]]> by: R Hayes http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-9923 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 13:35:58 +0000 http://blog.blowfish.com/advice/couples-couch-having-vs-wanting/558#comment-9923 The conclusion is useful, I think, but the premise is flawed. Does wanting stop when getting begins? Not in any sex I've enjoyed. The conclusion is useful, I think, but the premise is flawed.

Does wanting stop when getting begins? Not in any sex I’ve enjoyed.

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